Be happy

 I always try to understand why there are people who do not laugh or look happy, even when we live in a world with more technological advances, refrigerators, stoves, microwave ovens, fast food, home theater, instant food, things that are supposed to do more. make our life easier and give us more time to enjoy it. So spend a lot of time reading about why people don't look happy. The first thing I found was a 'cult' of bad temper. That is, people respect and consider 'important' people who walk around with a frown or who don't laugh. On the contrary, if you walk with a smile at all times it seems that you have nothing to do, that is, you are unimportant. They have noticed that when a professional attends you at the time he said he could, the first thing you think is "this is a failure, he has no clients"

Going to the psychologist seems to be the most successful destination for friends who laugh to themselves, we see them and immediately tell them "go see a doctor, surely you have something wrong" and if you ask, what can I have wrong? They will answer "something, anything, such happiness is not normal." In these readings I was able to notice that happiness experts recommend changing those around us by giving a simple greeting, if ten are serious and you say good morning with a smile, even if it is a wake, one or two will get a smile and better yet, you change the direction of the day. On other occasions, talking about a family subject lifts the spirits of a stranger who is going to have a tooth pulled, and one feels a little happier when he gets home knowing that he gave a smile to those who needed it. Each of us can do something to cut the way to the bad mood of others.

The people who say hello, who are friendly, we treat as idiots and deluded; those who look at us with appreciation and respect us we ignore them. But on the contrary, we remember that one or that one who, due to their aggressiveness, rudeness or rudeness, yells at us and runs over them all day and part of the next. The movies, television, society in general promote this type of attitudes and personalities, they worship the aggressive and rude type, transforming them into role models for young people. We are so bad at being kind that there are courses for anger control and treating others well, something that should be part of our human nature.

Things are so bad that a friend says that to find someone nice he calls the call center of his phone company or the bank, there he always responds with a "Good morning", my name is so-and-so, what can I do? serve you? And meanwhile, in his house, his ten-year-old son answers him, what did I want, a'pa? I was not surprised when I called and asked one of those operators if he liked his job and he replied that he hated it because no one responded to his greetings, but he was sure that if he said a bad word to them they would surely take it into account and even ask his name .

Seeing a happy person always seems to be unbearable. If you tell them that they gave you a raise, they answer that "good things don't last long" "that they will ask you in return" "your knees must hurt" well no! I've only done my job. If a woman says that she is pregnant, they ask her “are you okay? Didn't you get stretch marks? Do your feet swell? It hurts? And everyone forgets that it is a happy occasion. The most daring assault him How many children do you already have? Wait until you see how your life will change! Another habit that threatens happiness is that mania of "keeping things". And if we neglect those comments it paralyzes us to be happy. We cannot wait for it to be a drink of liquor that makes us happy, or the successes of our children, or things. I often see people who buy things to try to be happy, they buy watches, clothes, sheets, houses; and the day they run out, they are lost or stolen with them they take their happiness. Can someone really steal the reasons that make you happy?

Getting started in the art of being happy is the first step to make others happy, but the logical question arises: what to do? How to be happy? All the books I have read lead to a first conclusion. To be happy, it is first necessary to "decide" to be. It is a personal decision. Smiling, being kind, greeting, looking people in the eye, being positive and not paying attention to those with a negative mood, only you can do it and then in fact no one, no living being can take it from you. I have even seen inmates who give a smile and offer support to their relatives, but only because they are aware of their actions and agree with their consequences and from there they can give love and happiness to those who are in a better situation than them. They decided to be happy, with the real misfortunes included. One can walk happy or smiling even if he has sorrows or sadness. And it's not hiding them, it's being aware that around there are those who need us. And that is the first step towards selfless love and true Thus, knowing that you are necessary in the lives of others is that you understand that it is necessary to thank others for the opportunity they give you to give them love. If they ask you how was your day? and you answer "like everyone, boring", it is that you have not thought about your family being in good health and you have someone who loves you, if you are clear about it, you will appreciate having a home that awaits you, a family that loves you and a partner who loves you You have a lot to be thankful for and smile about. Live the present with what it brings and has, today and now, be happy, love and without a doubt you will be loved.